What do people think about the lifestyle?

On the late weeks I started a discussion topic on a fórum about what do people think about the lifestyle, if they think it is a taboo, would they try it, if they were in an open relationship and what did they hear about the lifestyle and the couples involved in. Sadly, we are not prepared as a society to tell our secret to everyone, because it’s still a taboo, there’s people that supports this ideology, but there’s even more people that are against, because many factors doesn’t let them understand why we love swinging: religión, closed minds and pro monogamy are the principal factors that doesn’t allow society to comprehend what is really behind this sexy style of living. Here are some of them:

1.- “There is nothing better than a faithful, loving, respectful relationship between 2 people. Swinging is sleazy and inmoral…”

Ok. First of all, who told this guy that monogamic-faithful-loving-respecful relationships can not be selazy and inmoral? At least, or as a big (sorry, huge) advantage, couples in the lifestyle are way more honest that “morally normal relationships”. How many unfaithful couples exist nowadays and do hide from their partners? Man, better tell the truth!

2.- “ ...and hey, don't let the threat of sexually transmitted diseases stop you. It's all in the gamble...right? You could very easily leave with something you didn't bring to the party.” 

Whats the deal with the STDs and the lifestyle? It’s very frustrating to see how people think that swingers don’t use the right measures to prevént a STD, it is the same risk that a husband going to a hooker takes and then bringing the bad stuff to his wife’s bedroom…sorry but not sorry!

3.- “For starters there is the complete lack of real intimacy. Everyone is reduced to the sexual parts, and the intimacy of a real relationship is lost.”

All I can say about this is that he has a point here: There might be no intimacy in a swinger encounter, and that is what swinger couples are exactly looking for, an encounter where sexyness and excitement gets involved with no intimacy.

4.- “There is a wonderful attraction in being with someone that only has eyes for you, that knows every part of you…”

That was so romantic, and I respect this girl’s comment, but, being realistic, don’t you really look at another guy and have some fantasies about them? We are human beings, you can not lie to nature and hide your desires, trust me, your man DOES watch another women and DOES has fantasies about them everyday! Lifestylers are open and free to tell their partner “honey, I think that girl over there is HOT”.

5.- “Once you have opened Pandora's box and lost all respect for your partner and self, you can then close the box, end the relationship, and settle down with someone who hasn't sleep with your family, friends, colleagues, and every other swinger on Craigslist.”

Let’s close this entry with these masterpiece, another thing that really bothers me: Why do people think that swingers are sick nymphomaniacs? Yes, swinger couples enjoy sex a lot more than “normal ones”, yes, swinger couples have a bigger sexuality than the average couples, but that doesn’t mean that they’re looking to hook up with everyone or everything that moves, in fact, most of the couples are very selective and it has to involve an excellent chemistry before getting a full swap.

After reading all this comments and taking the discussion to a Word fight in the fórum, I think most of the people are not much agree with the lifestyle, but it made me happy the fact that much more couples came out and gave some great opinnions about swingers and open relationships, the most used word from them: respect.

Thanks for reading sexies!