Still a Vanilla? How to take the next step

We’ve talked before about rutinary marriages, and how this part of life can be extremely harmful for a couple that has decided to join their lives forever. As we’ve been talking all this time about relationship issues and solutions, there’s only one way to really know what are your partners thoughts: questioning and replying, communication, feedback, as you call it, talking about it is the only way to solve anything (unless you have a psychic talent, and if so, stop reading).

You are taking an imortant step, you’ve decided to leave the normal style of life to enter a complete and awesome new world which is the swinger one. Perhaps you’ve heard many roumors about the lifestyle, good comments and bad ones about it, but remember that the choice is in you and your partner’s hands and heart, remember, this choice can save your marriage and give it a rising boost.

Swinging with close friends?

I have a friend couple that was interested in the swinger lifestyle, they ‘ve talked hundreds of times about doing it and decided to move forward. They have a friend couple too, they meet every weekend to have some drinks and been friends since more than 15 years. They decide to talk to their friends about the possibility of swinging, in order to spice up their  relationships, I must say, wasn’t easy at the beginning, but their friendship became from strong to unbreakable, here’s why:

Feelings in the lifestyle start from zero, usually swingers don’t start the play with their closest friends (there’s always the exception to the rule) because there already exists another type of confidence, experiences, angers, joys, etc. A close-friend swinger relationship must be agreed in every single way, as you can communicate with your partner, you must be able to communicate with your swinger friends the same way. Something that is inminent if everything goes right, is that the relationship between both couples will be deeper and stronger.

Read: The History of Swingers!

The interesting part of a swinger encounter is the confidence management, the ice breaking talks, the flirting, the turning on conversations that you need to build as the moment goes on. Going out with an unknown couple is like your first date at high school (but it comes in pairs! yay!), and it can be the funniest thing ever. You and your partner must dress very nice (depending of the place), never get there empty handed, take some wine or gourmet snacks, always get there on time (punctuality is very important for professionar swinger couples) be respectful all the time.

The night goes on, you all start feeling more comfortable and confident than ever, had some wine and start intensifying the chatting, you can start with some games to heat things up. Ice is broken, time to set up the rules, as with your partner, feel free to tell what do you like, what you don’t and what would you be open to do, remember, it’s all about communication. I heard once a person say: “if you can see your partner doing an oral to another person without feeling any anger or jealous, welcome, you’re ready for the lifestyle”.

There are a lot of feelings going on in a swinger encounter, and trying it is a must. If you’ve thinked about it and talked about it with your partner, the only thing left to do is put in practice some of the advices and listening to the couple you’ll play with, they can be the menthors of taking the huge step of stopping being a vanilla, and entering into the pro’s court.

Thanks for reading sexies!